Chapter 4: Impact on family and friends

Changes within your family of origin

I've been there
Lucy shares how life changed for her family after the death of her brother Matthew. (3:22)Video transcript

My sister was the glue that held our family together. She was the one who had the weekly family dinners and made sure we celebrated our birthdays together, no matter how old we got. We so miss her and all that she did in our family.

My brother wasn’t always an easy guy to like. We didn’t see eye to eye on most things, and our relationship had its ups and downs over the years. It’s fair to say that I have a lot of mixed feelings now.

In addition to missing your sibling’s physical presence, you and other family members will likely feel the loss of any roles that your brother or sister had in your family. You may not recognize the more subtle losses at first. You may notice them more on a particular date, such as a holiday or traditional family celebration.

Click on the following to see some examples of roles your sibling may have had: