Chapter 2: How your friend’s death may affect you


The grief expert says
Michaela McLean, grief specialist, explains how a friend's death can bring self-reflection and recognition of one's own mortality.(3:22)Video transcript

I enjoy talking about him if someone brings his name up. I’m not afraid to talk about him or be emotional around people when I do that. I accept it, and I see the pain that I feel as a tribute to how much I loved him and how significant his loss is in my life.

There is no language that describes you as a person grieving the death of a friend. Friends are the people we trust, lean on, celebrate with, and have fun with. We listen to and support them, and they do the same for us. We feel a deep connection with close friends, often sharing many experiences.

You may have expected that you and your friend would grow old together and always be there for each other. You may have known each other since childhood, or you may be newer friends. As Jim Henson said, “There’s not a word yet for old friends who’ve just met.”

This chapter provides information about some of the unique aspects of grief after a friend’s death and offers suggestions to help you cope.