Chapter 2: As care needs increase

Responding to anger

I feel like I am walking on eggshells all the time, and I am careful with what I say.

One of the biggest challenges is not to take the anger personally. Below are some ideas to help. Click each for more information.

Acknowledging that the person you are caring for is angry and needs a safe place to vent is a good first step. This doesn’t mean that you can’t share your own feelings. Anger is normal and expected, and it’s better to talk about it than to avoid it. You might explain that you feel angry as well, but that you recognize you are both really angry at the situation, not at each other. You could let the person know that you are with them, not against them. You could also tell them you are ready to refocus the anger and face this challenge together.

What may help

It may be helpful to connect with others experiencing something similar.

If the person’s anger persists and you feel threatened or harmed in any way, seek help immediately. This might mean getting in touch with your healthcare provider, a local crisis line, or police.

Helpful resources